In Part 3 of The Dreamkillers, I want to delve into the last reason you have not achieved your dream. Although it may hurt your pride, you need to hear it. You are just TOO DAMN LAZY.
Yes, I said it. I know it because I battle the lazy kid that lives in me daily. It was either write this post or let the lazy kid convince me to play Call of Duty 3: Modern Warfare. Those terrorists almost lost their virtual lives!
Living for someone else’s dreams can in a strange way be considered noble, and fear is a real issue for many. However, laziness is neither noble nor understandable. It is tragedy personified. It is blatant and unapologetic. It feeds off of your soul. It kills your dream.
The lazy kid gets you to sleep in late, when you could be blogging or designing your first app. He tells you that there will be time next month to do those things, although he knows that he has a full bag of tricks in store to steal your time next month.
So how does the lazy kid kick our dreams’ butt? Because we give him all the ammo he needs – we give him excuses. Excuses are aplenty when the lazy kid is around. I don’t have enough time. My wife is not supportive. I work hard and I deserve a break.
You deserve a swift kick in the rear end. Your dreams are your highest calling. They should rank above scratching your junk and watching Mad Men reruns. They are just too important to die because you could not be convinced to work at them.
Now that we have that out of the way, I have a three-step process to smack down the lazy kid:
- Acknowledge that you are a lazy bum – I should not have to explain this step to you. It is a necessary element of the process. You have to eliminate all excuses in this step. Excuses = no dreams.
- Decide in 60 seconds or less one productive goal that can get you closer to your dream – This step requires a fast turnaround, but is completely doable. If you have dreamed writing a book, then decide to write a short story or blog post today.
- Complete that goal in the fastest possible time – This is the “do it now” step. You can alter to alter your goal into smaller chunks, but that is only acceptable if you complete it FAST.
For example, I have a goal to write an e-book. Originally, I was shooting for a 40,000 word rough draft and a 25,000 word (or roughly 100 page) book. But I know two things.
The first is that my first book is likely to be my worst (just based on lack of experience). Of course, I COULD win a Pulitzer Prize on my first book, but I also COULD win the Mega Millions and text my boss my resignation on the way to St. Tropez. Neither is very likely (but sure would be fun)!
The second is that momentum is essential to achieving our dreams.
There was a two-year gap in the first 10,000 words of my e-book. If I wait for 40,000 words, there is no telling what kind of havoc the lazy kid could unleash on my dreams. However, if I publish a 7,500 to 10,000 word e-book in the next 30 days, it is much more likely I can get to my 25,000 word book dream. Get the point?
So smack the lazy kid down. Stop pining over other people’s dreams. Give fear the middle finger.
No one is killing your dreams. Especially not the Dreamkillers!